How to Get Your Wife or Girlfriend to Have Sex With You

Most women need an emotional connection to feel aroused. She just won't be into you if the dog is barking and the kids are screaming. You may just have to wait until both are asleep before approaching. Another option is to hire a babysitter and have a stay in date with the bedroom doors locked.
Step 2
Stress can also cause an emotional disconnect. Is she preoccupied with work? Has she been concerned about a friend or family issue? Has she been ill? If this is the case, you can try some stress relief techniques such as running her a luxurious bath or giving her an erotic massage. However, if she resists, patience is important because she may become resentful if you demand too much, which can lead to future refusals
Step 3
Be aware of your own feelings. Many relationship therapists believe that though one partner is invariably more sexual than the other, in a relationship, both partners tend to crave affection equally? Do you only hug or kiss when you are about to have sex? I challenge you to be affectionate without expecting sex in return. This will give her the opportunity to initiate sex.
Step 4
Spice things up! Would you keep doing something that took up your time if you got no benefit out of it? Women who do not achieve orgasms through "run of the mill" sexual activities are less likely to want to engage in sex. This does not mean that you are inadequate. Think of it as a challenge to find a way to make her orgasm. There are many toys specifically designed to give her pleasure. Vary the use of toys along with sexual intercourse to maximize your pleasure and hers. There are also products that can be applied to the clitoris and vagina to enhance orgasms.
Step 5
Let her know how you feel when you are rejected. Do not assign blame when doing this, but simply express your feelings. Also remind her that she has a choice to make when you approach her. She can choose to be aroused or not and this choice affects your relationship.